One Night Stands: How To Get It

You should know by now that when it comes to scoring a one-night-stand, both SPEED and TACT is of essence.

So let's say you've used a solid Opener, you've determined that this girl fits your logistical criteria, and the conversation is flowing.

Now it's your job to CONTROL the conversation and "tweak" her emotions to make her feel curiosity and sexual attraction.

In order to drive up her attraction, you'll need to frame yourself as a CHALLENGE.

You're not the typical, ordinary guy who is agreeing with everything she says, and trying to impress her!

The question isn't whether YOU are worthy of HER.

No, the way you "frame" this conversation is that it's HER job to impress YOU.

Is she fun enough?

Cool enough?

Adventurous enough?

Sexual enough? Etc.

When you turn the tables and make women want to earn YOUR approval, you're well on your way to achieving the One Night Stand.

If you want to be the *KING* at turning the tables with women & getting them to obey your every "command", go here:

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Now, here are some tactics you can use to turn the tables, frame yourself as a high-value guy, and drive up her interest and attraction:

* Use backhanded compliments. These are statements that sound like compliments initially, but then you slip in a "jab." (These should sound like playful teases, not insults.) This technique is also known as Push/Pull.

"You're the funnest girl I've met...in the last five minutes."

* "You're cute, but I detect a bitchy high-maintenance vibe from you. I bet all your ex-boyfriends say you're a handful."

When she protests and playfully slaps you on the arm, you say "only kidding. Actually, not really...but it's okay, you seem fun. Are you?" (Keep testing & challenging her)

* Mention how you two shouldn't date, or aren't compatible. This technique always catches women by surprise...and makes them feel curious to know more about you, because you're doing the exact opposite of what most guys do! Say things like...

"You I could never be boyfriend and girlfriend. We're way too much alike. We'd probably clash all the time, and then have crazy, wild make-up sex and wake up all the neighbors...and then we'd break up again the next day and you'd throw my clothes out in the front yard...it would be hot, but a whole lot of drama."

"It's too bad I swore off dating girls like you..." (change the subject and don't explain)

"I've always had a thing for women who are tall/short/blonde/Asian/etc. (something she is NOT)

"I'm all wrong for you. You're probably used to dating 'nice guys' who kiss your butt and bring you flowers on the first date."

"You're such a nice girl -- you shouldn't be hanging out with a guy like me. I could get you in all kinds of trouble."

"You're really sweet...but seriously, you should probably be talking to a nice boy like the one over there (point to some dorky-looking dude). I'm more like the guy your mom warned you about."

OK, moving onto more "teasing" tactics...

* Put her in the Friend Zone. This tactic is also very powerful because it reverses the normal roles. Usually it's women who put guys in the Friend Zone, right? But you can do it to her!

"You're like the little sister I never had." (Or, "You remind me so much of one of my little sister's friends.")

"It's good we met, I don't know if we're right for each other but we can be friends for sure."

"I can tell you would make a great friend. You're so nice."

* Blame All Flirtations On Her. This is another fun way to "flip the script" and show confidence. Play around with her and get her to start feeling some attraction, and then "blame" her for what's happening:

"Here I am trying to have a serious conversation with you, and you keep giving me flirty looks. Cut it out, would you? It's distracting."

"If you keep looking at me that way, I'm going to have to turn on the charm and seduce you."

"If you don't stop being so cute, you're going to force me to start hitting on you."

"I hope your boyfriend isn't around, because if you keep smiling at me that way I'm going to be forced to start flirting with you."

(Notice, you're not telling her you are hitting on her/flirting with you right now. You're saying that it might happen soon, and it's going to be "her fault.")

"I really ought to get home because I have work tomorrow, but if you keep flirting me like this you're going to force me to have another drink with you."

"You're making me think such naughty thoughts. Do you have voodoo powers or something? Stop it, I'm trying to concentrate on what you're saying."

"You are totally trying to seduce me right now. Stop looking at me that way. I promised myself I'd be celibate for the next 30 days and you're messing everything up."

"I'm don't know why, but you keep making me think about us going to the mall and picking out a bunch of sexy lingerie for you at Victoria's Secret. Cut it out, OK? I don't want to be thinking about that stuff right now."

"I came out tonight to have a couple of beers and chill, and then you come along and force me to start flirting with you. It's all YOUR fault for wearing that dress."

* Employ her/fire her: "I like you. I'm hiring you as my personal assistant." Or, "I've always thought that my life would make a great book. I'm hiring you as my personal biographer. Start taking notes." (If she knows how to build websites, make her your website developer. If photography is one of her hobbies, she's now your personal photographer. Or your chef. Or personal trainer...)

Then, when she does something dorky or gives a lame answer to one of your questions, you "fire" her: "That's it -- you're fired. Tell the cute blonde over there she can submit her resume."

By using these tactics (and many others that are explained in The One Night Stands Playbook), you're FRAMING the tone of the conversation and staying in control at all times. She probably can't remember the last time she met a guy who showed such confidence, self-control, and playful humor...who made her feel that she needs to STEP UP and earn your approval!

But you won't make it easier on her ;)

You'll continue to use cocky humor and "teases," while at the same time ESCALATING (verbally and physically) and priming her for sex tonight.

I explain this concept in more detail within my ONS program. This program will give you an in-depth education on how to think and behave in such the way the REAL PROS do... no matter what your looks, height, income, age, etc.

You will learn literally HUNDREDS and HUNDREDS of killer ideas for getting over your fears, approaching women, speed seducing & speed closing the women you want.

The best part?

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No kidding. You can order it now and try all the techniques YOURSELF... and if you aren't THRILLED with this program, just send it back and pay nothing. No questions, and no hassles.

Trust me, I don't get many of them back! But I DO get back a lot of letters telling me about the success that guys are having meeting women after using it... and the complete transformation that this success leads to in other areas of life.

This is your download link:

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Enjoy!
Jay

Speed Closing Secrets (free video)

Hey,

Want to know how to nail that girl who says she "just wants to be friends"...and make her think it was HER idea to have sex with YOU?

This unusual video from my friend Dean Cortez reveals a weird (but proven) trick for "accelerating" your conversations with women and getting them into your bed FAST:

secretstomeetwomen.com/one-night-stands-masterclass/

Forget about getting stuck in the "friend zone" ever again. (Trust me, I've been there...and it SUCKS to feel frustrated and powerless with
a girl you really like...)

Instead, Dean's going to show how to quickly become a rejection-proof chick magnet that women want to have sex with.

And you'll do it fast, without having to take girls out on dates and spend your hard-earned money while HOPING you "get lucky" somewhere
down the line...

It's all about knowing how to skip the boring small talk and FLIRT with girls instead...in a super-confident, sexy, playful way that pushes her "sexual attraction buttons"...

So that you'll get laid as much as you want, with the girls you want the most.

Instead of spending another weekend going out and NOT getting laid, you'll be able to pull off as many One Night Stands and Same Night
Lays as you want.

(Don't be surprised if your buddies get super jealous and BEG you to reveal your "secrets!")

But what I really love about Dean's "Speed Closing" tactics is that you can use them on ANY girl...

Including a girl you're friends with, but you want to CRANK IT UP and turn her into your lover...or your girlfriend.

Watch this quick video and learn Dean's closely-guarded "escalation" strategy, and you'll get her into your bed in no time... and from there, it's UP TO YOU where you want to take the relationship.

The tactics in this video are so easy to learn, you can use them to hook up tonight:

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By the way, Dean's tips on how to DOMINATE bars and nightclubs are PURE GOLD.

He'll show you 7 field-tested routines you can use to approach girls at bars and clubs and INSTANTLY "hook" their attention...

Create fast attraction and "sexual chemistry..."

And get them smiling, laughing, and flirting with you in no time...

Even if she's with a group of friends - or with another guy!

Even better, you'll learn 3 Sneaky Questions you can ask a girl...in the first five minutes... to determine whether she's up for sex with you
tonight.

If you're a "Nice Guy" who has a hard time closing the deal, this video gives you the shortcut to getting sexual with women...

And if you're a bit of a "Bad Boy" and you want to know how to TURBO CHARGE your skills...well, the secrets contained in this video are going to make you a total bad-ass:

secretstomeetwomen.com/one-night-stands-masterclass/

Talk soon,

Jay

P.S. I have to ask you to please use these methods ethically and responsibly, because they're proven to affect women on a DEEP subconscious level and flip "sexual attraction switches" that 97% of guys aren't aware of...

(Truthfully, most WOMEN don't even know they've got these switches inside of them! And once you learn how to "flip" them, your sex life is going to SKYROCKET...)

Dean told me he's getting a lot of heat for this video, so watch it now before it gets pulled offline:
secretstomeetwomen.com/one-night-stands-masterclass/

Make Women Say Yes! To You EVERY TIME

I've talked to hundreds of women about the qualities they find most attractive in men, and a sense of humor is usually the first quality they mention.

But are women being phony when they say this?

Are they giving this answer because they don't want to appear shallow-when what they really want is a tall, muscular hunk with a ton of cash?

If the ability to make a woman laugh was such a huge turn-on, then wouldn't stand-up comedians get laid more than rock stars?

We all know guys with a "class clown" personality who are constantly saying hilarious things, and they're usually the LAST guys to hook up. Women find them amusing, but don't feel any sexual attraction.

Here's the truth.

When women say they love a sense of humor, what they really mean is they love the deeper ATTITUDE that a sense of humor points to.

Guys who are funny, playful and nonchalant around women - and even better, can bust on women and tease them a little - are obviously confident and in control of their reality.

These guys don't look to women for approval.

They don't radiate anxiety.

They never seem like they NEED to get a woman's phone number or hook up with her. This goes back to two principles that are revealed in the M.A.C.K. Tactics Program:

http://secretstomeetwomen.com/mack-tactics-women-persuasion-secrets/

1. Women are attracted to men who present a challenge.

2. Women are fascinated by men who are "in demand" and obviously have other romantic/sexual options.

Women, by nature, are jealous and competitive when it comes to men. Give her the sense that she'll have to step up and WIN you away from other women, and the game is on!

A playful, cocky guy radiates this attitude.

Having this attitude means you've got to stop second-guessing yourself. You've got to squash that little voice in your head that tells you why you SHOULDN'T approach a girl, or try to go to the next level with her.

The average guy takes himself WAY too seriously when it comes to women, and is constantly asking himself unnecessary questions:

"Does this shirt look good on me?"

"Is she going to get annoyed if I walk up and talk to her?"

"What if she has a boyfriend?"

"Where should I take her on a date?"

"What if we run out of things to talk about?"

"If I ask for her phone number, will she think I'm some stalker?"

"Is it too soon to try to touch her?"

When you allow your brain to fire off these questions, it DESTROYS your ability to be fun, spontaneous and playful.

You're allowing yourself to be preoccupied by unimportant details, when you SHOULD be asking yourself questions that boost your confidence and remind you to stay sharp and on top of your game:

"This girl is cute, but is she interesting enough for me to date?'

"Is she smart and funny enough to hold a conversation with me?"

"What can I teach this girl, that she'd never learn from the average guy?"

"What should I mention about myself, to really make this girl curious about me?"

"How far am I going to take this tonight, and what's my plan?"

Now, in terms of the verbal questions that you ask women, you've also got to learn how to "spin" them to make them effective.

When you're getting to know a girl, and you make a request that she can simply say "no" to, chances are she will:

Him: Can I buy you a drink?

Her: No.

Him: Can I have your number?

Her: No.

Him: Can I kiss you?

Her: No.

Him: Want to go back to my place?

Her: Hell no.

Him: Can I see you again?

Her: I'm pretty busy...for the next six months.

One technique is to rephrase your questions so that you give women "false choices." This means you are not giving her the chance to say "no."

You are assuming that she's going to go with your flow, and implying that.

Lead the interaction, and if she's at all interested in you, or at least curious, she'll go along with it and never shut you down with a "no."

WACK: Can I buy you a drink?

MACK: So tell me something interesting about yourself, that's going to make me want to have a drink with you.

WACK: We should exchange numbers. (as you take out your phone) What's a good time to call you tomorrow?

MACK: Want to go back to my place?

WACK: Let's go to my place and I'll show you that _______ I told you about. (Fill in the blank with something you mentioned earlier, that you want to show her.) I've got some good wine...but I've got to be up early tomorrow, so just one glass.

WACK: Would you like to dance?

MACK: I'm going to need to take you onto the dance floor. I don't want you standing here looking like a wallflower.

WACK: Would you like to hang out sometime?

MACK: My friends told me about this new lounge that has great music on Friday and Saturday nights. Which night is better for you?

Remember: boring, ordinary guys are constantly asking permission from women. This results in a lot of "No's," and a lot of disappointment, frustration, and masturbation.

In the meantime... flip the script and start "spinning" your questions to make them more powerful, interesting and effective.

Incidentally, if you'd like to get a TON of great conversation & persuasion themes and lines for specific situations, then you really should check this out:

http://secretstomeetwomen.com/mack-tactics-women-persuasion-secrets/

Jay

Women Persuasion Secrets

Hey man,

You might have heard of my buddy, Dean Cortez...

He's the guy who teamed up with a bad-ass HOSTAGE
NEGOTIATOR to figure out a "formula" for seducing
women...

Using nothing more than WORDS.

Dean shows you how in this brand-new video:

http://secretstomeetwomen.com/mack-tactics-women-persuasion-secrets/

Because here's the thing...

Hostage Negotiators are the most highly trained
"communicators" in the world...

They know exactly how to use specific WORDS and
LANGUAGE to trigger a person's emotions, and push
the right "buttons" their behavior...

And here's where it gets REALLY cool...

Dean figured out a way to take these super-
advanced communication tactics, and apply
them to WOMEN.

Imagine NEVER been "tongued-tied" again, because
you always know the PERFECT thing to say next...

To GRIP her attention...

IGNITE her interest...

And AMPLIFY her attraction towards you...

After watching Dean's video, you'll be IN CONTROL
from now on, every time you flirt with women:

http://secretstomeetwomen.com/mack-tactics-women-persuasion-secrets/

Now, these tactics are a bit controversial, so Dean
told me he might need to take this video offline soon...

But if you're lucky enough to watch it...

You'll learn a surefire, step-by-step system that
gives you an unfair advantage over ALL the other
guys...

I just need to ask you for one favor...use these
tactics responsibly, ok?

This stuff is based on "classified" military and
Hostage Negotiator training, and it's VERY powerful
(it works on girls on a subconscious level)...

So, I'm going to share this with you, but don't let
me down...

(And don't share this with your friends.)

Dude, this really is "seduction on steroids"...
http://secretstomeetwomen.com/mack-tactics-women-persuasion-secrets/

Talk soon,

Jay

http://secretstomeetwomen.com/

How to make out with a girl in 40 seconds or less – for real

If you've ever seen a guy in a bar walk up to a girl he didn't know and make out with her almost immediately, it can be a completely mind-blowing experience. It may seem like it's magical or out of reach - a special ability or super-power that someone is born with.

But it's not. And it can be broken down into a few simple steps you can follow in order to make the same thing happen for you. In this article, I'm going to break down those steps.

The first step is to realize that about 90% of the difference between someone who's really good with women and someone who's not so good or mediocre with women, is the ability to spot a woman who's ready to make out.

I know it sounds kind of crazy at first, but it's true. If you walk into a bar and go up to any woman without knowing what signs to look for, your odds of success go WAY down.

You must know how to spot that woman who's already in this "make-out ready" state, so you can walk up and be "that guy."

Don't buy into the myth that women don't want this to happen.

Women are as sexual (if not more sexual) than guys are. Most of the time, this "turbo" make-out session never happens, because so many guys are afraid to go for it. And when this doesn't happen, the girls end up going home alone or worse.. staying being kind of mean to a lot of guys in the bar/being resentful and angry because no one's approaching them.

By putting this technique into practice, You want to discover how to see the women who you're able to make out with in 40 seconds or less in the first place.

There are a few excellent indicators that will (especially in a bar atmosphere) tell you if a woman is game, or ready for an instant make-out session.

What To Look For

The first indicator is a woman looking down often. When a woman looks down often, she is accessing her emotions.

Let me explain... When we look in different directions, we access different parts of our brain. These are called "Eye Accessing Cues." When a woman is in a bar setting and looking down, she's accessing her emotional brain.

If she makes eye contact with you, looks down then back up again, she's saying: "I have an emotional response to you looking at me and I'm looking down." And if she tilts her head down as well (and doesn't just use her eyes to look down), she's physically dropping herself a little bit lower and showing submission.

This gives you the ability to walk up and be the dominant man.

Now, if she looks at you, smiles and doesn't look away, this could be a lot more difficult situation. Socially, she's meeting you head on, and not showing immediate submission.

Women who you're going to be able to walk up to and make out with in 40 seconds or less should automatically take the submissive role as a woman. That's one quality which shows you'll be able to quickly make out with her.

Another quality is that she's actively looking around to make eye contact. This is crucial. A woman who is engaged with someone specifically and she's not looking away is not going to be as easy to seduce in 40 seconds or less. It's going to take much longer.

Again, you're going to have to play a totally different kind of game when you walk up. You can't just walk up and make out with her.

So instead, if you see a woman who is in a conversation but she's constantly looking around and trying to make eye contact with a lot of people, this is probably a very, very likely opportunity for you and that's a woman you can walk up to and immediately become sexual with.

Other traits are revealed in the way they're moving and how they're dressed. Let's say she's standing with her feet about shoulder-width apart. It's less likely that a woman standing like this is going to be available for you to walk up and dominate. That's because she's standing in a dominant position, with stronger body language and she'll probably be a lot more resistant.

Instead, you want to find a woman who takes up less space. She has her legs closer together and seems to be outside of a group, looking around a little bit.

Another thing is the way she's dressed. If she's dressed in a way that's super flashy and attracting lots of attention, she probably isn't the kind of girl you can walk up to and make out with in 40 seconds.

This kind of women is looking for attention - not for someone to dominate them. What you want is someone who's in between "I don't care" and "Stare at my tits, bitch!" Somewhere between wearing sweatpants with an elastic waistband to the bar and done up really, really beautiful and sexy with a really low-cut shirt. You want to find someone who's in between those two extremes.

A lot of women who are on vacation fall into this realm. They don't want to over dress or under dress, and don't know how the bar atmosphere is going to be. They'll usually come in open-minded, and start looking around trying to make connections. This is an excellent situation for you (and her, of course).

That's what to look for and how you spot her in the first place. If you see some of those, you want to watch her for a second. If you think that she is the kind of person you can walk up to and do this, then proceed.

If not, I'd actually suggest you proceed anyway, just to see what happens.

Next, right after you get that done and you've seen your girl (there are probably three or four of these girls in a bar at any given moment) you're going to walk up and start the scary part.

What To Do

This is where the most powerful kind of frame control comes in. It's very, very important that you understand how to control someone else's frame if you want to come across like you're a pro at this.

By "frame," I basically mean their "reality." You're controlling what they experience. You have to be able to stay in control of that experience in order to really bring her to the level where she feels comfortable making out with you immediately.

I'm going to give you a very quick, punchy, fast way of doing this. I'll explain as quick as possible; that way you can go straight out and try it...

Here's what I would say, word-for-word... Walk up to a girl, when you get up to her and right when she makes eye contact with you, I want you to SLOWLY put your finger up by your lips and say this, "Shhh…"

Then slow your speech pattern down and deepen your vocal tonality. And immediately say, "Wait just one moment."

You can also say, "Stop for one minute." I suggest using a bit of NLP here. Whenever someone hears "stop," "wait," or "don't," they immediately register whatever comes after that.

So if I say, "Don't think of a black cat," what do you do? Immediately, you think of a black cat and whatever version of one you have in your head.

So if I said, "Don't try to make out with me," or "Don't make out with me right now," girls are going to be consciously hearing, "Don't make out with me," but their subconscious minds will be hearing, "Make out with me right now!"

You're attempting to sort of use real-life Inception to get making-out with you to be HER idea. She should be thinking, "I should make out with this guy."

Now, during frame control you'll be using a lot of these subconscious triggers in order to get this to go as fast as possible.Please only use this for good. There are lots of evil ways to use this.

Don't try to seduce women who don't want to be seduced. Again, that's one of the reasons why it's important that you notice a woman who really does want to be seduced by a man.

So to recap so far: you walk up, you put your finger over your lips and you tell her to "Shhh" for a second and then you say a sentence that starts with "don't" or "wait" or "stop."

My typical is "Don't worry... right now." That's all I say. And I slow that speech down – "Don't…worry…....... right now."

Then I go right into the next statement, which is, "You and I are going to have a secret. We're going to secretly kiss and no one will know."

And as I'm saying this, I'm leaning in... and you'll be doing the same when you do it. You're leaning in ever... so... slowly. At the same time, you're looking from her eyes down to her lips and back up to her eyes again.

This is called "Triangulating." Count to three looking at her eyes, then look down to her lips and count to two, look back up and count to three, look down and count to two... etc. Do that about three or four times as you're talking.

This can be a lot to remember, so you may want to practice it a little bit. I wouldn't expect you're going to get it perfect the first time.

So again, you say, "We're going to have a secret. We're going to kiss and no one is going to know." From here on out, you're really just filling up space with words as you're leaning in so you're still controlling the interaction.

So you're going to very, very slowly, take your right or left hand – whichever one is more accessible – and reach around her back. You won't pull her in toward you or anything yet, just touch her very lightly.

Signs That It's Working

Is she looking at your lips? If she's looking at your lips, you have a green light to go forward. If she's looking at your eyes, you may want to wait a second, or turn around and turn back again and try it again.

This resets the meter in her mind, so to speak. When you turn around and turn back again, most people consider this to be a fresh start in a conversation. It's a strange loop-hole in psychology.

For some reason, that's how we are as humans. When someone turns away then turns back, we give them another chance moving forward. So if you're getting some resistance, turn around, turn back, smile, and continue. If she gives you resistance again, you probably should back off and find another woman.

If she's looking at your lips and seems to be very comfortable and excited, then proceed. You'll move in very closely and speak almost directly into her ear.

!Important!

In a loud environment like a bar, you'll want to speak louder, but don't raise your voice. Make your voice very low so that you have to be very, very close to her ear for her to hear.

Then you're going to keep talking... What I usually say is, "No one is going to see this. It's just going to be our little secret. I promise I won't tell anybody only if you promise that you won't tell anybody either."

As I'm saying this into her ear, I make sure that she's feeling my breath on her neck. So I'm sort of breathing out a little bit more than normal as I'm speaking so she can feel that hot air on her neck.

This usually gets a very visceral, deep, sexual response from women when you do this.

As you're speaking really close to her ear, you'll, very slowly, press your cheek against hers as you're talking. Then you'll move you head over so that your mouth is closer to hers, and then... you'll start kissing her.

And if you do this right, you start out with just one soft peck... then go straight into making out. It may not seem like it in this description, but 40 seconds is a long time. This process can happen in a lot less than 40 seconds - I've done it in less time, and I've seen other guys do it, too.

Practice It

What I want you to do is practice this approach. Maybe go for a minute or two at first, and then get to where you can do this in about 40 (or even 30) seconds.

You won't use this tactic all the time. But when the opportunity is right, it's really good to have this in your seduction arsenal. You want to make sure that you have the right kind of tools for the job, so to speak.

Whenever you see a girl who's in that state and ready to be seduced, if you beat around the bush, engage in small talk or generally waste time, she'll be turned off and you've lost a golden seduction opportunity.

Instead, when you spot this, you want to be able to see her, know that that's what she wants, go in, and give it to her immediately. This is the major difference between guys who are rock stars at walking up and seducing a woman... and guys who wish that they were great at quickly seducing a woman.

There are a lot of other success factors as well. There are techniques on how to speak with the right tonality... how to touch her that allows her to feel comfortable and doesn't turn off any of her weird alert switches... specific NLP triggers that you can use to connect and make sure she's totally in your zone.

What's taken me from a normal dude to a well-respected dating coach, is knowing a lot of short-cuts like this and knowing when to bring them out. And these short-cuts can also improve your game with women.

Remember these characteristics in women who want to be seduced, and remember – it is possible to make out with a woman in 40 seconds or less.

Discover my other top 3 "Seduction Secrets" in this special video presentation.

Jay